We all deceive ourselves, says the author of Call Me By Your Name, who provides a hierarchy of self-deception. “The most glaring one, the most painful one, is to imagine yourself being loved by some people who absolutely hate you.” How many really love you? Maybe 50%. “That’s a good number.” Hard truths and lyrical prose, plus music from Flor de Toloache, New York’s only all-women’s mariachi band. I really – really – love them.

• •  PERSON: Eric Rohmer
  •  PLACE: Strauss Park
  •  THING: a Monet Painting
  •  RANDY’S PLACE: an imaginary classroom